Moving Mountains isn't Necessary - It Only Takes One Trick to Win Her Back

Getting your girlfriend back may seem like the most difficult task on the planet. It doesn't have to be though. Many guys make it much more difficult than is necessary. You see, you've been led to believe, mostly in Hollywood movies and by the makers of fine jewelry, chocolate, and greeting cards, that this is the way it's supposed to be. That isn't the case at all.

In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still easy tips you can follow that really will help you get her back. Here are a few things you should remember if you really want to win her back.

Stop Living in the Past

Turn of the century American Author, Alice Morse Earle, once wrote: "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." Living in relationship past robs you both of all the joy of each day together when you're in the relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a clear perspective on what needs to be done now in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around.

Become the Man You WANT to Be

This is hard for many men. It's something you may not have given a lot of thought to. Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid, where the grown up man is confronted by his eight year old self. The eight year old was horrified at the man he'd become saying, "So, I'm forty, I'm not married, I don't fly jets, and I don't have a dog? I grow up to be a loser."

Sometimes there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives that one up though?), but that doesn't mean you can't take steps to be the man you want to be -- even if that does involve learning to fly a jet. The first step is deciding who you want to be. Then you must tackle the process of becoming that man.

How does that Help You Get the Girl?

Life doesn't always follow a movie script. You might have to wait a little while to really get her attention. But, once you start making real, notable changes in the man you are and stop trying to recapture a past that wasn't as picture perfect as you remember, you'll be able to gain a new outlook on the future. One thing is certain. Once you become the man you WANT to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she'll WANT to be part of.

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Spotting the Good Guys

The lament of several women centers around finding good guys and how impossible the task appears. While not the easiest process in the world, a few simple tweaks to one's outlook may bring results where mining online dating sites and locals clubs have failed. Knowing where to look, what you are looking for and your own roadblocks must come into focus before the good guys will begin surfacing.

Where to Look?

This is one of the easiest things to fix. Men are not hiding in a secret location. They are everywhere. The problem isn't finding guys. It is finding the right guys.

Look Around: Pay attention to the places you are already frequenting. If personal health is an interest, there will be men at the gym, running trails and even the yoga class. If you have a hobby or other passions, there will be a place you visit to get supplies or information. Keep your head up and make eye contact.

Situational Awareness: Being in environments with men who share similar interests is not enough. You will need to sift through to find the ones who will be right for you. Take the gym as an example. Connecting with a body builder hyper focused on free weights if you prefer someone with greater overall fitness will lead to greater frustration than not being able to find anyone. Look for the right mesh.

What Do You Want?

Knowing oneself can be a challenge to meeting the right guy. Everyone possesses things, both known and perhaps hidden, nudging them towards specific men. Like fertilizer for a garden, being aware of what you need, want and will not tolerate make finding the best guy for you much more fruitful than a scattershot approach.

* Deal Breakers: What must you have or will not tolerate in anyone?
* Deep Wants: Unlike breakers, you have to know what fills your heart drawing you to another person.
* Delightful Lures: Areas arise pulling you into deeper waters and only certain types of men will draw that from you.

What Prevents Your Openness?

When entering into a relationship, a delicate dance begins leading some to shy away from even the best guy for them. More than knowing likes or dislikes or sharing interests, one needs to address real things blocking them from a true relationship. This often proves challenging because no one likes to think they are the cause of their own pain.

Root Out Prejudices: Preconceived notions do more to short circuit relationships than true disagreements. Looking at someone and dismissing them out of hand reduces the number of guys, good and otherwise, out there being considered. Taking a chance on someone gives love a chance to blossom.

Being Real: Presenting false fronts, even to make yourself feel better, gives the wrong impression. You are meeting another person. How they act might be directly related to how you are acting. If being fake and hide what you really feel when you are with them, they likely will respond in kind. The risk of being real offers the other person the opportunity for honesty as well.

Good guys are mixed in with every other kind of guy out there. Also, a good guy for you might surprise you. You need to check in the places you already are, know what you're really looking for and having an open heart to allow love a chance to grow. Love is often hard to find. You need to help it along. For More

The Trap of a Torrent of Texts

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Technology can bring people closer together by increasing ease of communication, eliminating costs and reducing distance between couples. As a beneficial tool, smart phones combined with inexpensive plans allow couples to be in regular contact.

It can grow tempting to reach out for a partner at anytime without consideration of how the contact might be received. One needs to be aware of the reasons they text, the limitations of communication via text and when a line has been crossed to prevent a rise in concern of a partner.

Reasons to Text

Texting serves many purposes with friends, family, co workers and partners. The ease of texting has replaced many conventional forms of communication. The number of phone calls between individuals have dropped in favor of a quick, emoji filled text message. Let's look at some good reasons to text.

* Confirmation: A quick message to verify plans or location.
* Heads Up: When working late or held up by traffic, notifying a loved one can make them feel special and alleviate worry.
* Requests: Answering a loving offer for take out and providing the specific menu items desired.
* Loving Messages: Lovey dovey words of affection replete with kisses and hearts.

Limits of Texting

While a flexible and powerful tool, texts fall short in several areas. One needs to take these problems into account when using texts as a communication device.

No Nuance: Limitations of space and words make long conversations with emotional context difficult. Even with the addition of emojis, deeper feelings refuse to be captured via text. Greater misunderstanding can arise due to the gaps left by not being able to suss out sarcasm or a joking tone.

Response Time: Patience can be tested when chatting with someone through text. Simple things like travel, dead batteries and interruptions delay a partner from answering back. The limbo created by waiting has the emotional capacity to twist one's guts into knots.

Lacking Depth: With both of the above barriers to communication, most couples keep their text messages short and on the surface. This is an excellent use of the medium. Unfortunately, texting creates a pattern where couples avoid deeper topics even when they are not typing their responses.

Crossing the Line

Clear warning signs exist when approaching critical mass when it comes to texting a partner. Taking them into account as a group will help prevent a state where someone is seeking an escape hatch.

1. Don't start multiple chat threads.
2. Watch out that you're not only one texting.
3. Avoid bringing up topics better dealt with in face to face chats.
4. If the person does not respond, resist the urge to check to make sure they got your last text.
5. Establish healthy boundaries with all forms of communication, especially text, and stick to them.

If tempted to break these, you need to look inward to determine the cause. A deeper issue may exist causing behavior outside the norm. It is also wise to see if there is a pattern occurring across all forms of communication and with everyone.

Texting a loved one can be enjoyable and playful. Respect and attention go a long way to preventing the wrong message from being sent. Hold back and see how much richer one on one time becomes without the phone in your hand. For More:

Moving Forward by Going Through

Everyone faces challenges when it comes to the dissolution of relationships. Feelings run high. Sensations of loss and instability plague even the most assured individuals. It takes more than a strong will, a blind eye or even a new relationship to help someone get to the healthy place they seek. In order to find what they need, one must push through the pain toward wholeness.

Why It Should Happen?

Think about when an injury to the body is sustained. What does it take to return to full health and perform even everyday functions without pain? If someone suffers long enough, they may not ever move, sit or even breathe without feeling as though they are being challenged by the actions. A feeling of hopelessness may creep into their lives.

Relational pain falls into the same category. Just as recovering from a broken limb, one should deal with their emotional pain and move along the path to recovery. They can only enter into a healthy relationship after addressing the fallout of the previous one. The simplest thing to do is take a slow and healthy approach to deal with all the issues and make slow progress.


Using the Mind

Some steps require using reason to catalog and note patterns. One of the strongest skills people, even those not professionally trained, have exists in recognizing patterns. This simple skill can expedite the process permitting quicker recovery.

Make a List: Start with a simple breakdown of what happened listing all the aspects of the relationship. The more complete the analysis then it will point to all the things treasured and lost within the relationship.

Look for Patterns: By using the list and the recent relationship, one should see if they can find repeat occurrences within prior relationships. This can be difficult since most people want to forget their worst attributes. For example, someone taking into account how unchecked jealous has damaged trust may find it hard to face.

Assess the Causes: More than lists and patterns, you need to see how much of these fall into areas you had a hand in manifesting. This can be hard because the temptation is to take too much or too little responsibility. Often extremes fail to affect a true changes. Also, a negative in one relationship may become a positive in another.

Now, The Heart

The mind, though great at cataloging, never fully processes things outside of a coldly clinical approach. To truly release the past relationship, one must engage the heart because it performs vital tasks. Let's look at some things the heat is well designed for.

* Grieving: Releasing pain after acknowledging the damage it has cause through the many aspects of loss happens in the heart.
* Finding: Being drawn to important things like connection and communication can be sensed through the heart.
* Treasuring: Holding onto key parts of relationship often occur in the stronghold of the heart.

The past can be a beautiful story carrying one forward in to richer relationships or an anchor dragging everyone to the bottom of a sad sad sea. Seeking health, using the mind and accessing the heart frees one from the negative bonds of the past. It takes bravery to enter this struggle and perseverance to reach the end. Be strong, be brave and stay with yourself. Only you can find the freedom you seek, so press on through and forward. For More :

Family Holding Back on the Ex

When taking an ex back, several things need to be considered. The process can take a long time to get everything in order from one's feelings, resolution of the incident which caused the break up and a plan to reintegrate them back into your life. Following this involved course, one might be surprised by they way their family reacts. Everyone wants to believe their family will acquiesce to the wishes of the couple. Rarely does anything ever go the way one wants or believes it will, so it is best to be aware and eyes open.

Responses

Family responses to one taking back an ex can be varied. Given the wide range of how family's may react, one needs to be prepared. Let's look at a few possible responses.

* Cautious Optimism: In several situations, this could be the best response hoped for as your family is not actively rooting against your reestablished relationship.

* Luke Warm: The family neither supports nor detracts from the relationship. Unlike the optimistic group, this family proves far more likely to remind one of the troubles and downgrade some of the positive experiences.

* Active Antagonism: As the name suggests, no positives are ever brought up. More often than not, the family tends to degrade the ex by bringing up less than stellar aspects of their personality, behavior and how they tanked the initial relationship.

Reasons

As complicated as the reactions, a family's reasons for why they act the way they do when hearing about the rekindled relationship can be filled with twists and turns. Some of the reasons will have a valid base supported by logic. Other reasons will be pure speculation and suspicion. Weeding out the truth becomes critical to prevent one's family from burning the foundation from under the renewed romance.

* Protection: Family's see part of their role as watching out for those they love.
* Wisdom: As a group, families believe they are more aware of the best thing since they are not swept up with emotions.
* Experience: One or more people in the family may have tried restarting romances and view it as folly.
* Fear: They can recall the pain of the dissolution of the initial relationship and do not want to have it happen again.

Reactions

Ultimately, your reaction to the your family will bring them closer to accepting the relationship. One of the keys centers around their understanding you have considered all the things their worried about and addressed them with your ex. Granted, a clear discussion will never alleviate all their concerns. In fact, one should not try to act in such a way as to mollify them. Your family is entitled to their own feelings. Their feelings should not damage your relationship with them or hinder either your relationship with your ex.

Taking time to have conversations, both with your family and your ex, will go a long way to demonstrating how much time, effort and care has gone into restarting the relationship. It may take a while before everyone can get together and begin rebuilding their connection. Until then, you will be the link between the two reassuring them about the decisions being made and solidity of all your relationships. For More :

Breaking Through Being Ignored

Feeling dismissed and ignored stings deeper than almost any other feeling. One would almost rather feel the highest highs of love followed by the depths of despair of a break up than exist in the limbo of the unknown.

What should a person do when they believe they are being ignored? Taking stock of the relationship, determining the source of the breakdown and fixing the problem will need to occur before anything will resolve for the positive or negative.

Where Things Stand

Though seemingly obvious, one needs to make sure certain things exist before taking offense. Some of the items can be established without a conversation. However, one must often have a conversation with their partner to confirm things.

* Verify the Relationship: Sometimes if you have kept things casual at the outset, everyone might not be aware of the depth of the relationship. Someone who does not know they are in a relationship cannot truly ignore the other person.

* Confirm the Expectations: Once in a relationship, it becomes critical to set a baseline for interaction. Having an understanding about frequency of contact, what forms of communication will be the norm and level of exclusivity help to create the plan moving forward.

* Avoid Being Unrealistic: Applying too much pressure might tend to push a partner away leading to very situation where the act of ignoring happens. You must take into account what you want while allowing for the needs of your partner.

Where Did Things Break Down

It can be hard to know the true cause of why relationships move in the ways they do. Some of the things blocking the course of the progression grow numerous.

* Fear: Either person can let fear stop them from moving forward or pulling back to keep themselves safe.
* Not Ready: Maybe someone is not ready to commit to a deeper level.
* Purposeless: A partner may feel like they intended to have fun without any of the regular strings attached.

Be aware, these things could arise from either side of the relationship. You could feel any of these things. Also, a feeling you are presenting might push the other person away creating the very distance you fear.

How to Fix Things

The single best way to repair the damage and get things back on track is to have the difficult conversation. Most people prefer to let things languish until they die rather than taking the necessary steps discuss their deep feelings. No one wants to hurt another person.

Addressing fears, feelings, direction and desires means having more than single discussion. Communication proves to be the most challenging thing facing a couple because they have to be honest with themselves as well as the other person. Nothing threatens a relationship more than straight, honest talk.

In the end, growing from a mild relationship into a deeper commitment means facing hurdles like being ignored and overcoming them. One needs to put their own fears in check and become vulnerable with their partner. From a place of trust, any couple can thrive. It only takes a little time and courage. Love means being bold when the heart trembles.